The idea for this post came by a chat with my friend, who seems to be having a complain saying that, your post are generally all girley, frilly kind of stuff........What do i read...and so i asked him, what would he want to read about, and Voila, this is what he came up with.......
Well mine is a love marriage, and my views could be skewed :P,
To startoff, listing down a set of pro's and cons of each, beginning with Arranged marriage, which is the preferred by our parents, and Parents being God's gift to us...
*You never have to worry about your parents (or his) disapproving.
*Minimal compromise expected in daily life, perse, food, eating habits, customs, traditions
*Learning curve involved of understanding, and developing a bond with each other
*You're likely to develop a close friendship as well as a love relationship with time
*The excitement of the unknown (& uncontrollable)
*You're more likely to know what's expected of you up front.
*You have no choice (obviously)
*Love may take a while to develop.
*There is the element of risk (he/she may not be right for you)
*You can't date beforehand to look for a partner (since your parents take care of that)
For Love marriage:
*Since you have dated for long, you are very much aware of your compatibility levels.
*Awareness of each other strengths and weakness
*No communication gap, or learning curve required
*Pillar of strength for each other, right from the start of the relationship
*There is no excitement of the unknown, since you are aware of each and every aspect of your spouse
*Lot of compromise in your daily life, right from eating habits, traditions, customs, living styles, dressing style.....can increase manifold times, if its an interreligion marriage, of people from opposite regions, like north, south or east meets west
*Lot of efforts required to make your inlaws appreciate you.
Though this is just the tip of iceberg for such an important topic........Many of us, can share light on this topic based on there experience.....Oh by the way, this topic has been dedicated to my friend Sai...:P
I would like to end this post with a quote, which holds true for both Love, as well as Arranged marriage, "A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers"
I absolutely vouch for this quote, Marriage teaches you lot of patience, forgiveness, sharing and caring for each other....... May each of us be blessed with a wonderful partner, adieu