Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Love marriage vs Arranged Marriage


The idea for this post came by a chat with my friend, who seems to be having a complain saying that, your post are generally all girley, frilly kind of stuff........What do i read...and so i asked him, what would he want to read about, and Voila, this is what he came up with.......

Well mine is a love marriage, and my views could be skewed :P,

To startoff, listing down a set of pro's and cons of each, beginning with Arranged marriage, which is the preferred by our parents, and Parents being God's gift to us...


Arranged Marriage:
PROS:
*You never have to worry about your parents (or his) disapproving.
*Minimal compromise expected in daily life, perse, food, eating habits, customs, traditions
*Learning curve involved of understanding, and developing a bond with each other
*You're likely to develop a close friendship as well as a love relationship with time
*The excitement of the unknown (& uncontrollable)
*You're more likely to know what's expected of you up front.

CONS:
*You have no choice (obviously)
*Love may take a while to develop.
*There is the element of risk (he/she may not be right for you)
*You can't date beforehand to look for a partner (since your parents take care of that)


For Love marriage:
PROS
*Since you have dated for long, you are very much aware of your compatibility levels.
*Awareness of each other strengths and weakness
*No communication gap, or learning curve required
*Trust
*Pillar of strength for each other, right from the start of the relationship

CONS:
*There is no excitement of the unknown, since you are aware of each and every aspect of your spouse
*Lot of compromise in your daily life, right from eating habits, traditions, customs, living styles, dressing style.....can increase manifold times, if its an interreligion marriage, of people from opposite regions, like north, south or east meets west
*Lot of efforts required to make your inlaws appreciate you.


Though this is just the tip of iceberg for such an important topic........Many of us, can share light on this topic based on there experience.....Oh by the way, this topic has been dedicated to my friend Sai...:P

I would like to end this post with a quote, which holds true for both Love, as well as Arranged marriage, "A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers"

I absolutely vouch for this quote, Marriage teaches you lot of patience, forgiveness, sharing and caring for each other....... May each of us be blessed with a wonderful partner, adieu

13 comments:

  1. Tip of Iceberg is an enlightment for me. loved your blog with both pros and cons of love vs arranged marriage. Sorry to say Annie, but i did not give much importance to the cons part of your blog and mostly concentrated on the pros. he he (B+).
    And thanks for dedicating this blog to me. I have to be a regular follower of your blogs now. (Obligation) he he he.

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  2. Both have its own advantages and disadvantages Rentu..but I feel if you have good compatibility with your partner then weather it is love or arrange it doesn't matter.

    also when the marriage take place both look like same.I mean I had a luv marriage but I feels it was kind of a arranged one only:D

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  3. @Sai: Good that you concentrate on the Pro's of marriage, shows that you are ready for marriage.

    @Anamika: I agree, in marriage, compatibility is what matters the most

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  4. Hey!!! are you Bipasha Basu fitness fan?...I really liked her fitness CD which has a song "Love yourself"

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  5. @anamika: I too liked the fitness CD, and yes, the verse just stayed on my mind for long, so used it :)

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  6. Hey !!! I made kofta curry off Lauki and raita too ...post will be dedicated to you..I hope you dont mind if i link your blog.

    Thanks

    Love

    Anamika:)

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  7. @Anamika: ofcourse not, i owe you for encouraging me to write the blog, go ahead, sweets :)

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  8. Me - Love Marriage.. So obviously when I read this I was biased towards love marriage. Although you have been very fair and listed the real pros & cons for both.. I really feel that love marriage is better deal. I think that you have to compromise less and also you don't to "adjust" your personality so much..

    But like mentioned earlier - Compatibility is the crucial factor in success of both.

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  9. @Tanveer: I can very well see both of us skewed towards love marriage ;)

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